Horrible Women

I honestly sat here trying to think of a few examples of women gone awry, and this is what I came up with.  Its been the rare marriage that was destroyed at the hands of a woman, and the only examples I have of those are out of family…so I cannot discuss those, as I feel very uncomfortable talking about people whose confidentiality I must respect.

Truly, the only examples I can come up with are those with woman-on-woman nonsense…women-on-men has just not had the same statistical impact on me as men-on-women. So, a few short examples of women-on-women ickiness:

There is the woman who invited herself to spend the night at my house, when I had just met her for the first time at a women’s gathering. It apparently did not occur to her that some people do not feel comfortable having complete strangers in their home for more than a social visit. It apparently also did not cross her mind that I have parents that I need to ask permission from first! And also, if my house was big enough to accomodate a sudden guest was not a concern of hers either. Eek. And then she stalked me by phone for a whole month–thank God my mom does not answer unknown numbers; she would have been like over the fact that I actually gave such a “besharam” person our number.

Then there was the woman who, as alzubra mentioned earlier, tried to take the ring. Very pious woman, mashaAllah–tahajjud observing, niqabi, with children studying deen intensively. Met her for the second time. Was wearing an (apparently interesting) gold ring. She asked to try it on…and then was having “significant difficult” in removing it. I would rather give the ring away in sadaqa than reward that kind of open extortion.

There was the woman who, when she was recommending some man to us for marriage, said, “Don’t worry about all these ‘little’ issues and questions for now. Once you get married, everything will take of it itself.” Joke of the year, huh?

I really can’t come up with anymore–thank goodness my friends are really too Allah-fearing to give me any such women-on-women “violence,” for lack of a better term.

So, ok, from these I can only extrapolate the following (perhaps it is a stretch): If these women are like this outside their homes, with people whom they have only met once–what kind of grief do they give their husbands? I know this is (im)pure speculation,  but all the wrong character traits do appear to be there…unfortunately.