Ever get that feeling of I love you, followed almost instantly by I hate you at the slightest provocation? Here is an article from the LA Times Health Section talking about how this is a self-esteem issue. Apparently if we are well-adjusted, then we don’t swing from one extreme to the next over the littlest things, like when he forgets an anniversary.
Researchers found that people with low self-esteem — as measured by standard psychological scales — seem to have “separate stores of positive and negative partner information.” In other words, their partner, relative or friend is either idealized or vilified.
The report, published in May in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, suggests that healthy self-esteem — and not superhuman powers of forgiveness — is what enables a wife to say, “Even though my husband completely forgot our anniversary, he was so sweet and apologetic when he realized his mistake we had a glorious evening out two days later.”
But this doesn’t mean that self-esteem is easy to spot in another person. Researchers point out there is a big difference between self-confidence — which is typically associated with a particular task — and self-esteem, which goes to the heart of someone’s sense of himself or herself. A person can have a great deal of self-confidence in athletic abilities, for example, yet still lack this core sense of self-worth.
So I guess I am normal after all 😉 Yeah, right! 😆