I’ve always noticed that brothers tend to back each other up, a lot easier than sisters will back each other up. Brothers can easily confront each other, and tell the other when they’re going wrong. They can defend themselves, and have a fair argument, without getting emotional and harboring grudges.
On the other hand, sisters take personal offense when other sister sisters point out anything they do wrong. It turns into bitter bickering and tension. Sisters will take sides, and form alliances, with one side dissing the other side, and resulting in slander and backbiting. What has happened to the so called “sisterhood”? I’ve yet to ever see this concept acted out in real life. It seems like one big fantasy, which we delude ourselves with, instead of making it really happen.
The next time you sisters see another sister, try doing the following:
Greet her with the salaam.
If you’re at the masjid, and see some new sister all alone, try to get to know her.
If you see a sister doing something wrong, ask her why she is doing that, and if she knows the shar’iah ruling on it. Don’t be judgmental in the process! Show her you are her sister and you care.
Treat your sisters like you want to be treated, and let them know to treat you how you wish to be treated.