…talk about marriage!
Jeez, you have no clue how much that bugs me. Its like everything goes dead in your conversation, and what springs up? When do you plan on getting married? For the record, I don’t plan on it. I’ll leave that plan to Allah, thank you very much. You can’t hasten something that is destined to happen, and truly only Allah knows what is best for His creation. Whats the hype about marriage anyway? Everything is made to seem so fairy taleish when we talk about it, but the reality is totally opposite when you actually see your friend’s marriages. Do people realize what a commitment and responsibility it is? Well, I guess they do, cuz I get the question mostly from people who are already married, and I won’t bother analyzing their marriages cuz I’m simply not that bored.
So like logically speaking, why is marriage such a hyped up conversation? Don’t get me wrong, marriage is a beautiful thing, when both sides fear Allah and act upon the sunnah. Its just that, all conversations don’t need revolve around it. I’m not dissing the light-hearted jokes about getting married ( 😉 ), but the serious (and annoying) hypotethical questions you’re faced with. After a while it gets boring to talk about how you’d feel if your husband married a second wife, or how you’d feel if you couldn’t have children, etc. Obviously such things would hurt, so why dwell on the negatives? Just pray that if Allah forbid we are tested with such a situation, we handle it with sabr.
Now watch, everybody’s so freaked out they’ll avoid even using the word marriage around me for a while. 🙂